This is summer, another of my favorite time of year after spring. I love summer not because it is beautiful, but because it is warm, and I don't like cold weather. However, not only my life's journey that seems to be so changing, but also the weather. Isn't it supposed to be hot in summer? But it is really cold these days. I am now sitting in the corner of my room, wearing a winter jacket and drinking a cup of coffee. I put on my headphone, listening to my favorite childhood songs and feeling the missing of something. I am typing a story, the one you are reading right now, and looking through the window, and you know, it is raining. It is now 7:53pm in Czech republic, but it is not dark at all. The sun goes down at 9pm or even later than this. Days seem to be longer than nights. The sky looks sad no matter how high, great and beautiful it is.
Compare to life, have ever you proudly admired someone? Do you think they are great? Have you ever wish to have a great life like them? Now compare them to the sky I just mentioned about. They are high and great with a beautiful life, aren't they? However, to them, they are not that great in that way. They are still learning many things, they are still struggling, and they are still having their hard time. So what make you both different? Probably those successful people lead their life journey in a different way. They have something that you haven't had yet, and it is not a magic or the special power that you cannot have. Those things are commitments, confidences, ambitions, and patiences, and they plus many other small factors. Those things are easy to explain but hard to practice in real life because not many people are brave enough to hold those things when their life is in a mess. Why? It is because life is not a miracle that go smoothly for the whole circle or a fairy-tale that you can determine the ending. As a result of life lessons, most people tend to give up, become hopeless, or get lose. They complain it is hard to carry on when it is time to deal with problems, and they always said the lessons are not acceptable. They want to run away to avoid the reality.
Have you ever been like this? When you have someone who you really admire in life, you wish if you were them one day, and you wish you would be one day get success like them. You probably look up to the sky and think why cannot your life be as bright as those people? Why cannot you get success although you try hard (go further and try harder; you are almost there)? However, will you still want to be like them if you know the stories behind their accomplishment? Are you brave enough to face those obstacles like the way they did? Can you still hold on those confidences and commitments? There is a saying ‘'success is not a miracle'', and for sure, it does not happen for no reason. Behind a good movie, there are those sacrificial and hard-working writers, director, actors, actresses, cameramen...etc working together to create a good scene. A couple can be together because of at least a reason. It goes the same to a successful person, and the question “what is the reasons behind their success?'' is what you have to figure out by yourself.
Come back to you. You praise others a lot and forget to look at your own achievements and efforts. You fail to see the simple but helpful things you have done. Admiring someone and looking down on yourself make you feel you are not good enough. Comparing your life to others will never bring you happiness. I hope you have ever heard of this “There is no comparison between the sun and the moon. It shines when it is their time”, and they are beautiful in their way. You will be just end up hesitating to do a thing that you want to do if you are not confident enough, and you will never have enough commitment to show it. Feeling sad and being disappointed by comparing your life to others does not help anything but hurt you more. So, instead of thinking negatively and being upset, you should learn from those people's experiences. Consider them as your motivation, and when you are thinking of running out of reality or giving up, think of how hard they try to reach their dream. Think of how they deal with those difficult, stressed, tiring, hopeless, painful, or bad days, and how they could stay strong regardless of their scary life's storms. Last but not least, apply those experiences on your own life.
More importantly, learn to appreciate all kind of small simple things you have accomplished because they all the result of your efforts and hard-working. When you start to do a thing, do not expect to be the best, but do it with your all best. If you know how to cheer up yourself for even a small achievement, you know how to bring happiness to your own life.
This is a real life lesson. If you want to see how it works, try it yourself!
